Undoubtedly, divorce is difficult on all parties involved. Nobody leaves a marriage unscathed, but that does not mean you have to behave in a way that is unbecoming. As you complete the process of divorce, keep these potential mistakes in mind to avoid much more than potential embarrassment: losing custody, missing out on money and even criminal charges. Mistake #1: Using your children as pawns. Avoid threatening your spouse with limited (or complete denial of) visitation.